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Finding the Tribe: Together
All Things are Possible
All Things are Possible
Most everyone has had a moment in their lives where they just wanted to be
rescued, or someone to come along and make whatever was going on in their lives
easier. But for many, those moments are the norms, and the pain of hopelessness is
overwhelming. Those people often have experiences, or traumas, in their past that
keep them disconnected from hope and need something very basic and simple to
help them find their way. They need to hear it from someone they can relate to and
trust. And it needs to be presented in a way that is personal, real and easily
identified with.
Moments of being disconnected feel like a wound caused by something obvious or
not so obvious. And when we disconnect, the wound just gets bigger. The bigger the
wound, the greater the need for connection and healing. Every one of us has
experienced (or will) a wound (big or small) or a feeling of disconnect some time in
our lives. Therefore there is always a need for healing or a need for a better or
improved connection somewhere inside of us.
Healing is available to everyone who seeks it, and success in healing can come with
a formula and a pretty sound process for achieving that healing. It does not matter
how big or how small the wound is, the process is the same. Part of that process is
and begins with individual responsibility (no one else can do it for them), but is
heightened and enhanced by the collective energy of a group (or tribe), and is fed
and nurtured by the hope that yes it is possible. It is in that relationship (relationship
to self, relationship to a higher power and a relationship to “other”) that is the
catalyst for the healing process.
The collective energy of a group can be a person and their relationship to a higher
power or something that represents that higher power like nature, or an animal or an
energy force. Or this group or tribe can be a human-to-human connection or
collection of people. It can also be a coming together of people with similar beliefs
who have actually never met. But the purpose of the coming together is finding the
hope that all things are possible -- a concept many of us already know intrinsically,
but need some form of validation. This book is an offering toward that validation and
a report of repetitive observations that cover enough time and experience to support
its credibility.
“Finding the Tribe: Together All Things are Possible” is written about the stories of
people who have tried and tested the process, and have experienced healing. It is
written as a shared journey of two fictitious characters: Eloise and Jake. However
these two personalities represent real people, telling real stories about real healing.
Eloise and Jake were created not just to tell the stories of hundreds of patients
already seen and treated by the author, but to be used as a tool with future patients
and clients. In the first book, “If You Stand in the Middle You Won’t Fall Down”, the
author captured the essence of what it takes to begin a journey of healing: personal
responsibility.
She describes the worst moment of anyone’s life as the one where you realize that
NO ONE IS COMING TO RESCUE YOU. For life to change, one must create those
changes by managing thoughts, feelings and behaviors. That book was written not
only from personal experience, but also from observing patients for over a decade
and listening to their stories. It was very basic and simplistic, and has been shared
with hundreds of her clients as a learning tool and as an adjunct to their
psychotherapy process.
However after reading the first book, patients would come back and say they
needed more and wanted more direction in how to find healing and or happiness. So
the author began to observe and note the patterns in her patients, and found that
there were very distinct “predictors of outcome”. Qualities and characteristics that
seem to separate those who “recovered” from trauma and illness, and those who
remained under the spell of chronic mental illness.
This author found herself with clientele that other people had given up on.
Psychiatrists and therapists and counselors had sent a message that “this is as
good as it gets”. They would arrive at her door hopeless and discouraged, and yet
with a knowing that there had to be something more. They were hungry for hope,
and willing to do whatever it took to get better.
It was in working with those patients that this author began to log the necessary
components of healing. Simultaneously with this process, the author experienced
some trauma of her own, and was able to validate the usefulness of her
observations, by implementing her own recommendations (and they worked
flawlessly).
The author has developed and is constantly refining the ability to identify “predictors
of outcome” It is an assessment process that she learned as a nurse. And over time
has integrated into her daily critical thinking and awareness activities. Predictors of
outcomes are just that. They are factors that you can use to predict an outcome
(both in yourself and in those around you).
In Mental Health, there are many research projects and studies that examine
predictors of out comes. And even healthcare as a whole is transitioning
reimbursement criteria from a diagnostic perspective to an outcome perspective. If
you can assess for and identify key components on “Day One” of meeting a person,
then treatment planning, becomes focused and brings with it a certain level of
predictability and good outcomes.
In the business world, success is often influenced by determining the agenda of the
players involved. Knowing what questions to ask early in the process, can facilitate
good relationships, or terminate quickly those that interfere in the ultimate outcome
desired. It is always good to be able to predict with some certainty those who are
willing to grow and evolve and heal, and those who are resistant to growth and
unwilling to change. To know the success of the group, you need to know the
individuals in the group,
The two key components of this book are 1. Knowing self, and 2. Knowing how to
find and be a part of a group: “the right group”. Book One (“If you stand in the middle
you won’t fall down”) was focused on getting to know yourself, and taking
responsibility for that self. But this book, (“Finding the Tribe: Together all things are
possible”) relates more to the process of how that self integrates with the world. It
is about finding the group of people that can be called “your tribe”. It is an
instructional manual on how to use the predictors of outcome to find that tribe; (it
only takes two to be a tribe) and it is a treatment plan so to speak on how to be
healthy and find healing while in that tribe.
The two major factors in the treatment plan are being associated with a group or a
tribe that has the same long term goals; healing and happiness; while maintaining
individual personal identity in that process. We are all very much on our own journey,
but collectively experience the journey together. When the conscious collection of
individuals is well matched, success is expedited.
This author began to find her own tribe in many of the writers that she mentions in
this book. She then found that sharing what she was learning from those story
tellers opened up doors for her clients and patients to join this same tribe. And as the
tribal connections grew so did the healing. And as much as this author believes in
and promotes individual responsibility, the connection piece (or the relationship piece)
is often not understood, understated and undervalued in many psychiatric, mental
health circles And sadly even in many spiritual and self help arenas).
This book “Finding the Tribe: Together All Things are Possible” is about finding one
person who believes in you, and believes much like you do, but who allows you to
still be totally separate and individualist. It is about how one person: “Eloise and
Jake” can inspire you to find inside what you didn’t know you had. It is the opinion of
this author that it only takes one person. And that one person can be a friend, a
family member, a counselor, pastor a mentor or it could be the energy of a higher
power, an animal or two factitious characters such as Eloise and Jake who together
represent all.
This author revived Eloise and Jake from “If you stand in the middle you won’t fall
down” to continue the process of teaching, encouraging, sharing and on some
imaginary level: being a witness to the life of those who still perceive loneliness and
aloneness as being all there is.
Eloise and Jake are just a smidgeon of the vast numbers of people who have had
similar experiences, have discovered these same predictors of outcome, and are on
a journey together as individuals sharing collective energy. The author created
Eloise and Jake to give hope, to give guidance but most of all to validate what most
people already know deep down inside. We know that this is all about a personal
journey, but to make the journey together with others is what makes it all worthwhile
and definitely makes it easier.
This tribe, the one that this author is inviting you to join has some things in common.
And if you resonate with these factors, the author can predict with some certainty
that the outcome will be healing and happiness. These predictors promote the idea
that together all things are possible. To successfully integrate into this tribe, you will
have had a moment in time where you realize that:
This author’s personal healing was (as was Eloise and Jake) greatly influence by the
works of other tribal authors, by the wisdom of animals as totems, by various types
of energy work, by personal meditative experiences, by chakra work and by the laws
of attraction and manifestation. She has used all of those modalities in working with
her clients in addition to traditional medical and psychotherapeutic approaches. She
has included those “other” approaches in her writings with a desire that the reader
will take these tidbits and glimpses and then go and seek out additional information
on each of them to determine if any of them might be useful in their specific journey.
Each chapter ends with some exercises and information that might foster that
increased awareness of those “other” modalities. Self help books, Native American
wisdom, energy work, mindful meditation, chakra work and the laws of attraction
have continued to be major influences in both her patient’s lives and her own.
Eloise and Jake are much like the Author (and her husband) as many have
commented, however they are representative of a much great collective group of
people that comprise friends, family acquaintances as well as patients, clients and
colleagues. This book is written to advocate and to cheer, not only for hope and
healing, but also for all of the members of the tribe who also believe in hope and
healing.
“Finding the Tribe: Together All Things are Possible” is the ultimate cheerleader of
hope, healing and possibilities!
Available Summer 2011
Purchase the first book
rescued, or someone to come along and make whatever was going on in their lives
easier. But for many, those moments are the norms, and the pain of hopelessness is
overwhelming. Those people often have experiences, or traumas, in their past that
keep them disconnected from hope and need something very basic and simple to
help them find their way. They need to hear it from someone they can relate to and
trust. And it needs to be presented in a way that is personal, real and easily
identified with.
Moments of being disconnected feel like a wound caused by something obvious or
not so obvious. And when we disconnect, the wound just gets bigger. The bigger the
wound, the greater the need for connection and healing. Every one of us has
experienced (or will) a wound (big or small) or a feeling of disconnect some time in
our lives. Therefore there is always a need for healing or a need for a better or
improved connection somewhere inside of us.
Healing is available to everyone who seeks it, and success in healing can come with
a formula and a pretty sound process for achieving that healing. It does not matter
how big or how small the wound is, the process is the same. Part of that process is
and begins with individual responsibility (no one else can do it for them), but is
heightened and enhanced by the collective energy of a group (or tribe), and is fed
and nurtured by the hope that yes it is possible. It is in that relationship (relationship
to self, relationship to a higher power and a relationship to “other”) that is the
catalyst for the healing process.
The collective energy of a group can be a person and their relationship to a higher
power or something that represents that higher power like nature, or an animal or an
energy force. Or this group or tribe can be a human-to-human connection or
collection of people. It can also be a coming together of people with similar beliefs
who have actually never met. But the purpose of the coming together is finding the
hope that all things are possible -- a concept many of us already know intrinsically,
but need some form of validation. This book is an offering toward that validation and
a report of repetitive observations that cover enough time and experience to support
its credibility.
“Finding the Tribe: Together All Things are Possible” is written about the stories of
people who have tried and tested the process, and have experienced healing. It is
written as a shared journey of two fictitious characters: Eloise and Jake. However
these two personalities represent real people, telling real stories about real healing.
Eloise and Jake were created not just to tell the stories of hundreds of patients
already seen and treated by the author, but to be used as a tool with future patients
and clients. In the first book, “If You Stand in the Middle You Won’t Fall Down”, the
author captured the essence of what it takes to begin a journey of healing: personal
responsibility.
She describes the worst moment of anyone’s life as the one where you realize that
NO ONE IS COMING TO RESCUE YOU. For life to change, one must create those
changes by managing thoughts, feelings and behaviors. That book was written not
only from personal experience, but also from observing patients for over a decade
and listening to their stories. It was very basic and simplistic, and has been shared
with hundreds of her clients as a learning tool and as an adjunct to their
psychotherapy process.
However after reading the first book, patients would come back and say they
needed more and wanted more direction in how to find healing and or happiness. So
the author began to observe and note the patterns in her patients, and found that
there were very distinct “predictors of outcome”. Qualities and characteristics that
seem to separate those who “recovered” from trauma and illness, and those who
remained under the spell of chronic mental illness.
This author found herself with clientele that other people had given up on.
Psychiatrists and therapists and counselors had sent a message that “this is as
good as it gets”. They would arrive at her door hopeless and discouraged, and yet
with a knowing that there had to be something more. They were hungry for hope,
and willing to do whatever it took to get better.
It was in working with those patients that this author began to log the necessary
components of healing. Simultaneously with this process, the author experienced
some trauma of her own, and was able to validate the usefulness of her
observations, by implementing her own recommendations (and they worked
flawlessly).
The author has developed and is constantly refining the ability to identify “predictors
of outcome” It is an assessment process that she learned as a nurse. And over time
has integrated into her daily critical thinking and awareness activities. Predictors of
outcomes are just that. They are factors that you can use to predict an outcome
(both in yourself and in those around you).
In Mental Health, there are many research projects and studies that examine
predictors of out comes. And even healthcare as a whole is transitioning
reimbursement criteria from a diagnostic perspective to an outcome perspective. If
you can assess for and identify key components on “Day One” of meeting a person,
then treatment planning, becomes focused and brings with it a certain level of
predictability and good outcomes.
In the business world, success is often influenced by determining the agenda of the
players involved. Knowing what questions to ask early in the process, can facilitate
good relationships, or terminate quickly those that interfere in the ultimate outcome
desired. It is always good to be able to predict with some certainty those who are
willing to grow and evolve and heal, and those who are resistant to growth and
unwilling to change. To know the success of the group, you need to know the
individuals in the group,
The two key components of this book are 1. Knowing self, and 2. Knowing how to
find and be a part of a group: “the right group”. Book One (“If you stand in the middle
you won’t fall down”) was focused on getting to know yourself, and taking
responsibility for that self. But this book, (“Finding the Tribe: Together all things are
possible”) relates more to the process of how that self integrates with the world. It
is about finding the group of people that can be called “your tribe”. It is an
instructional manual on how to use the predictors of outcome to find that tribe; (it
only takes two to be a tribe) and it is a treatment plan so to speak on how to be
healthy and find healing while in that tribe.
The two major factors in the treatment plan are being associated with a group or a
tribe that has the same long term goals; healing and happiness; while maintaining
individual personal identity in that process. We are all very much on our own journey,
but collectively experience the journey together. When the conscious collection of
individuals is well matched, success is expedited.
This author began to find her own tribe in many of the writers that she mentions in
this book. She then found that sharing what she was learning from those story
tellers opened up doors for her clients and patients to join this same tribe. And as the
tribal connections grew so did the healing. And as much as this author believes in
and promotes individual responsibility, the connection piece (or the relationship piece)
is often not understood, understated and undervalued in many psychiatric, mental
health circles And sadly even in many spiritual and self help arenas).
This book “Finding the Tribe: Together All Things are Possible” is about finding one
person who believes in you, and believes much like you do, but who allows you to
still be totally separate and individualist. It is about how one person: “Eloise and
Jake” can inspire you to find inside what you didn’t know you had. It is the opinion of
this author that it only takes one person. And that one person can be a friend, a
family member, a counselor, pastor a mentor or it could be the energy of a higher
power, an animal or two factitious characters such as Eloise and Jake who together
represent all.
This author revived Eloise and Jake from “If you stand in the middle you won’t fall
down” to continue the process of teaching, encouraging, sharing and on some
imaginary level: being a witness to the life of those who still perceive loneliness and
aloneness as being all there is.
Eloise and Jake are just a smidgeon of the vast numbers of people who have had
similar experiences, have discovered these same predictors of outcome, and are on
a journey together as individuals sharing collective energy. The author created
Eloise and Jake to give hope, to give guidance but most of all to validate what most
people already know deep down inside. We know that this is all about a personal
journey, but to make the journey together with others is what makes it all worthwhile
and definitely makes it easier.
This tribe, the one that this author is inviting you to join has some things in common.
And if you resonate with these factors, the author can predict with some certainty
that the outcome will be healing and happiness. These predictors promote the idea
that together all things are possible. To successfully integrate into this tribe, you will
have had a moment in time where you realize that:
- No one is coming to rescue me, that I have control over my thoughts, feelings
and behavior and pretty much nothing else. And that in this same lonely moment
I discover that this means I do have control over my life and never again need to
be a victim. And that I just need to start somewhere to open up to all of the
positive possibilities available to me. - The journey begins with listening to ones body, and then caring for it with love
and respect. - It continues with having fun, being creative, feeling joy and laughing often: all
major nutrients of the body. - It knows that as important as fun is, so is service: and finding the meaning and
purpose in life because that is what sustains joy. - It is about being love; because love is really just another word for god, and it’s
all about the love (giving, getting, and being). - It understands that you need a tribe, you need connections and you need to
speak, listen and have a place to be real and authentic. - It is about having “hope” and knowing that it is hope that sustains life; Hope
comes from dreaming, learning, and knowing and then understanding the
differences and similarities between them. - Everything leans on and pivots around a persons ability to trust. (Themselves,
others, higher power and the process). - One must have the desire and ability and commitment to integrate, balance and
embrace the paradoxes of life.
This author’s personal healing was (as was Eloise and Jake) greatly influence by the
works of other tribal authors, by the wisdom of animals as totems, by various types
of energy work, by personal meditative experiences, by chakra work and by the laws
of attraction and manifestation. She has used all of those modalities in working with
her clients in addition to traditional medical and psychotherapeutic approaches. She
has included those “other” approaches in her writings with a desire that the reader
will take these tidbits and glimpses and then go and seek out additional information
on each of them to determine if any of them might be useful in their specific journey.
Each chapter ends with some exercises and information that might foster that
increased awareness of those “other” modalities. Self help books, Native American
wisdom, energy work, mindful meditation, chakra work and the laws of attraction
have continued to be major influences in both her patient’s lives and her own.
Eloise and Jake are much like the Author (and her husband) as many have
commented, however they are representative of a much great collective group of
people that comprise friends, family acquaintances as well as patients, clients and
colleagues. This book is written to advocate and to cheer, not only for hope and
healing, but also for all of the members of the tribe who also believe in hope and
healing.
“Finding the Tribe: Together All Things are Possible” is the ultimate cheerleader of
hope, healing and possibilities!
Available Summer 2011
Purchase the first book